Friday, April 13, 2007
To Comment or Not to Comment
The Websters New World Dictionary defines the word:
comment- 3. to consider thoroughly] to make a comment or comments (on or upon); make remarks
connection- 3. a relation; association; specif., a) the relation between things that depend on, involve, or follow each other; causal relationship
There are blogs that I will go to and read. I look forward to see what they have posted, but.... I will not comment. Why? I really did not know why. Until something that happened in the "Blog Realm," that made me seriously ponder as to why!
There is a circle of blogger's that will comment back and forth to each other; it feels as if we are all in the same room having a conversation. I loved it! I would look forward to a fellow blogger's opinion on different subjects.... Now, he is gone. I miss seeing his face and his comments. I would read his blog and had never gained enough courage to comment on any of his posts. Recently he passed away unexpectedly from a brain aneurysm in his sleep. He was 44 years old, newly divorced, and had two kids, a daughter and son. He loved these two with all of his heart. He was a brother who loved his siblings dearly. He was a preacher's son and very close to his parents. He was finding his way. He was caring, loving, and funny. He always wanted to do right by people..... He is now missed. Our hearts were touched by His greatness!
I never had the privilege to meet him. I only knew of him. I feel that if we ever did meet, we would have been friends. He seemed like the type of person that had friends anywhere he went.
There was not a funeral or memorial that I could go to. I will always remember him though. You see he has taught me many lessons, one of them being: To seize the moment. I will not go to a blog and not comment if I have one.
I have thought about why I do not leave comments and the reason why I don't. I have gone through life not feeling valued, wanted or even that I mattered. I do not want to get into the specifics, I will just leave it at that. Unfortunately, that has poured over to so many areas in my life, tucked away in a suitcase I carry with me everywhere. Through this journey of mine, I am beginning to believe that I am Valuable, I am wanted, and I do matter!
Leaving a comment... the way I see it, I have nothing to lose and only to gain if anything. I admire how some people dive right in and have no problem with this. sigh~
It is also making connections. Beautiful connections. For me, I am giving myself the gift of commenting.
I am opening the gate.....
and I am going to see what will bloom.
For what it is worth... I do value you and your opinion, your comments do matter to me. You are wanted by me. :)