Point Sur Lighthouse
Recently on one of my blog post's, someone left a comment. It said, "Do you have a life?" I was, to say the least, taken back. I sat in front of the computer screen, stared at the comment and feeling a little defensive said out loud, "Well... sweetie, I AM TRYING TO!" I followed the commenter's trail and realized that was just her signature way of looking at life by reading her profile. I abruptly deleted her comment from my post as if I was shaking any negative energy from my cyber space proximity. I have come back to the thought of that comment, many time's since. It made me feel like maybe... I was boring and look more closely to what I do with my time or even what I post for that matter. Even if it was her way of looking at things in general, something inside her made her come to that conclusion about me, to actually type out her thought and glide the mouse over to the comment icon and click. I wish I didn't delete it now. I have gotten some comments on my faith in the past and even some that nicely put me back into shape. I like to think that I can take criticism and believe everyone has the right to their own opinions. I try to look at it constructively; serving to improve. I will continue to be me and I look forward to what life will bring me and what I will learn from it.
I realize that when you have a blog, you are literally putting yourself out there and leaving yourself vulnerable. I like to think the positive connections outway the negative and am so thankful for the new friendships that I have found here through blogging.
So blog world... thank you for the connections you have brought me!
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I always think that my blog is just that "my blog", I share what I want, when I want, and criticism is always welcomed but there is a difference between sharing your opinion/or critic in a respectful constructive way and being just plain mean. Some people are just plain mean. But in the end they are just words, and your heart knows best, you always know best. stay true to you, enjoy your blog, I know I do. : )
ReplyDeleteI too like to hear some critizism, otherwise how will we improve on our blogs and ustimately our lives. I no longer get defensive as I know some people may think what I write is a bunch of bull buy should anybody ever ask me if I have a life the answer would be a redoundant YESSSS and I love it. I like your blog by the way.
ReplyDeleteKeep your Little Light shinning, Angela....You are a beacon and your blog is one of my favorites.
ReplyDeleteYou are open and honest....that makes you vulnerable, but never stop being who you are!
I enjoy your blog! I was surprised to hear you say someone would say that - I wouldn't say something like that so I just assume that other people wouldn't either. Keep up the writing. I like it a lot :)
ReplyDeleteYes, Angela, you do have a life.
ReplyDeleteIt is obvious to me that when you read that statement you were in a very vulnerable place.
One of the drawbacks of blog comments is not getting the oral and non-verbal cues of the commenter.
"Do you have a life?" can mean many different things if you emphasize different words, e.g., "Do you have a life?"
"Do you have a life?"
"Do you have a life?"
"Do you have a life?"
See what I mean? Even here we still can't hear the intonations. However, I think the first interpretation may be the least offensive for a stranger to utter. A close friend could probably get away with the others. Maybe.
Well my dear, it is good to know that your little light is still shining. I love the photo of the light house.
Keep up your good works.
I recently came across your blog and love clicking through posts. I think the very existence of this blog indicates that you HAVE a life. Here are snippets of that life in blog form! Some people are just ignorant and out here in cyberspace, we can't avoid occasional run-ins with them.
ReplyDeleteI have read and I am smiling!
ReplyDeleteSee what I mean!
Thank you blog world!
muah ~ mauh
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I love you sweet niece of mine and you keep that little light shining because you help me more than you know
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